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Ukuhlola Ubumsulwa Besikhathi Eside Nobungunaphakade
Uma unolwazi ngobumsulwa besikhashana futhi manje ucabanga ukuyisa izinto ezingeni elilandelayo ngobumsulwa besikhathi eside noma obuhlala njalo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokugcwele ukuthi yini ehilelekile ngaphambi kokwenza lokho. Ukukhiya isikhathi eside kudinga ukulungiselela ngokucophelela ukuze kuqinisekiswe uhambo oluphephile nolujabulisayo kubo bobabili ogqokile kanye nomnikazi wokhiye. Kusukela ezinkambisweni zokuhlanzeka ezibalulekile kanye nokuphepha kwenduku kuya ekuxhumaneni okuphumelelayo nokukhetha ikheji elifanele, lo mhlahlandlela uhlanganisa konke okudingayo ukuze uzulazule ngobumsulwa besilisa besikhathi eside nobuhlala njalo ngokuzethemba.
Ubumsulwa besikhathi eside buhlanganisa ukugqoka isisetshenziswa sobumsulwa isikhathi eside, kodwa ubude besikhathi buyashintshashintsha futhi buncike esivumelwaneni phakathi kwalowo oyigqokile kanye nomnikazi wabo ongukhiye. Lokhu kungase kusuke emahoreni ambalwa kuye ezinsukwini ezimbalwa noma ngisho amasonto. Kodwa-ke, ubumsulwa besikhathi eside abusho ukuqhubeka, ukukhiya okungu-24/7—kuvumela amakhefu noma ukususwa okuhleliwe njengoba kudingeka.
Ubumsulwa obuhlala njalo, ngakolunye uhlangothi, buhlanganisa ukugqoka ikheji ngokuqhubekayo, 24/7, ngaphandle komkhawulo. Lokho okushiwo, "unomphela" akusho ukuthi idivayisi ayilokothi isuswe; kunezimo ezivumelekile lapho kudingekile ukuyisusa, okuhlanganisa:
• Ukuhlanzeka: Umnikazi wokhiye angasusa idivayisi ukuze ahlanze indawo, aqinisekise ukuthi oyigqokile akazithinti yena.
• Izidingo Zezokwelapha: Ngesikhathi sokuhlolwa kwezempilo noma izimo eziphuthumayo zezokwelapha, kungase kudingeke ukususa ikheji.
• Isikhathi sokudlala: Nakuba singavamile kakhulu kunobumsulwa besikhathi eside, umnikazi wokhiye angase anqume ukuvula ikheji ukuze enze imisebenzi eseduze.
• Ukuhamba: Nakuba amakheji angewona awensimbi nezingidi zepulasitiki zingadlula ezokuphepha zesikhumulo sezindiza, ukususwa ngezikhathi ezithile kungase kudingeke ukuze uhambe.
• Imisebenzi Engokomzimba: Kwezinye izimo, umnikazi wokhiye angavumela ukususwa kwezemidlalo noma eminye imisebenzi enenkani.
Okulindelwe isikhathi eside ngokumelene nobumsulwa obuhlala njalo kuvame ukulolongwa uhlobo lobudlelwano. Isibonelo, i-Femdom dynamics ingase ifake imithetho eqinile kanye nokuphoqelela okuqinile kunamalungiselelo phakathi kombhangqwana oshadile owenza ubumsulwa. Nokho, la magama awomuntu siqu kakhulu—okushiwo “unomphela” kungahluka kumbhangqwana kuya kwabashadile.
Umqondo “wobumsulwa obuhlala njalo” uyahlukahluka kuye ngokuthi abantu abahilelekile. Nazi izindaba zomuntu siqu ezimbalwa ezigqamisa indlela abantu abahlukene abatolika ngayo futhi bazibone ngayo.
JakeInChains: “Kimina, ubumsulwa obuhlala njalo abusho ukuthi ngeke ngiphume—kusho ukuthi umkami unquma lapho ikheji liphuma. Kungaba okokuhlanzeka, ukubonana nodokotela, noma isenzakalo esiyivelakancane afuna ukusidlala. Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho lokho sekuphelile, ngivaleleke ngibuyele phezulu. Ukuboshwa kuwumthetho; ukuba ngaphandle kuyinto ehlukile.”
I-SteelLover82: “Ngizibona ngimsulwa ngokuphelele ngoba ukugqoka ikheji kuyisimo sami esizenzakalelayo. Umnikazi wokhiye wami ungivula ngezikhathi ezithile ngenxa yezizathu ezisebenzayo, kodwa lezo zikhathi zifushane. Iphuzu liwukuthi, angikaze ngizizwe ‘ngiphumile ngempela.’ Ngisho nalapho ngivulwe, ngiyazi ukuthi kungokwesikhashana futhi ngizobuya maduze.”
I-RoadRider24: “Mina nozakwethu sikubiza ngokungapheli, kodwa ngithola ukuguquguquka okuthile. Ngiwumgibeli wamabhayisikili oshisekayo, ngakho uma ngihamba isikhathi eside, ngivunyelwe ukuthi ngihambe ngaphandle kwekheji ukuze ngigweme ukulimala. Ngaphandle kwalokho—kanye nokuvakasha kukadokotela ngezikhathi ezithile noma udaba lokuphepha esikhumulweni sezindiza—ngikhiyelwe 24/7. Okuhlala unomphela akusho umzuzwana ngamunye wosuku; kusho ukuthi ukuboshwa yisimo sami esijwayelekile.”
Lezi zibonelo zibonisa ukuthi ubumsulwa obuhlala njalo buncane mayelana nezincazelo eziqinile futhi okwengeziwe mayelana nezivumelwano ezisebenzela kokubili umuntu ozigqokile kanye nomnikazi wokhiye. Nakuba incazelo yezobuchwepheshe iphakamisa ukuvala umlomo okuqhubekayo, izinto ezingokoqobo ezifana nezidingo zezokwelapha, uhambo, noma izinto zokuzilibazisa zingaholela ekuvuleni okufushane. Ingqikithi yobumsulwa obuhlala njalo ilele ekwenzeni isimo esikhiyiwe sibe yizinga kanye nokuba ngaphandle kokuhlukile.
Kulabo abahlose ukugcina izinga eliphezulu lokulawula, ukusebenzisa amathuluzi esimanje afana nezikhiya eziphethwe izinhlelo zokusebenza ezivikelwe ngephasiwedi noma izivalo zokhiye abavikelekile zinganikeza enye indlela esebenzayo. Lawa masistimu avumela umnikazi wokhiye ukuthi alawule izilungiselelo zesikhathi sokukhiya ukuze kukhululwe TimePasscode — kuyilapho enikeza umuntu oyifakile inombolo indlela yokuzivula ngaleso sikhathi. Nokho, le ndlela futhi idinga ukuhlela ngokucophelela ukuze ulindele izimo lapho ukususwa kungase kudingeke khona, njengemicimbi yezemidlalo, noma uhambo. Enye inketho ukusebenzisa izingidi zepulasitiki phakathi nohambo, okugwema izinkinga ezindaweni zokuhlola ezokuphepha. Ngenkathi izixazululo zedijithali zinikeza lula nokuziphendulela.
Kokubili ubumsulwa besikhathi eside nobuhlala njalo bunikeza amathuba ajabulisayo kubashadikazi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubudlelwano bunjani. Amanye amathuba ahlanganisa:
• Imibhangqwana eshadile enezela ubumsulwa njengesici sokwethembana nokusondelana
• Ozakwethu abayizitabane bahlola izindlela ezintsha zokushintshana kwamandla
• I-Femdom noma i-dynamics eholwa ngabesifazane lapho ubumsulwa buqinisa ukulawula
• Abadlali be-BDSM abahlanganisa ubumsulwa ezigcawini nasekudlaleni kasisi
Ekugcineni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhiyiwe izinsuku, amasonto, noma ingunaphakade, ubumsulwa yinto yomuntu siqu eyakhelwe phezu kokwethembana, imvume, kanye nokuxhumana. Wonke umbhangqwana uchaza inguqulo yawo "yokuhlala unomphela" ngendlela ehlukile-futhi kufanele kube njalo.
Noma ngabe usukulungele ukuzibophezela ebumsulwa besikhathi eside noma ukungena ekuvalelweni unomphela, ukuhlela okufanele kuqinisekisa ukuzizwisa okuphephile, okujabulisayo. Nawa amathiphu abalulekile ayishumi angakusiza ukuthi uthole okuningi ohambweni lwakho.
Ukuyiqonda kahle indlela yokuphila yobumsulwa kubalulekile ngaphambi kokungena emanzini. Hlola izinkundla, izindatshana, nemiphakathi ukuze uthole imininingwane kubantu abanolwazi. Ukusebenzelana nalabo abaye baphila indlela yokuphila—kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abagqoki besikhathi eside noma abanezikhiye—kunganikeza iseluleko esiwusizo. Ezinye izinsiza ezinhle zifaka: Izinkundla Zokuhlanzeka, Chastity Mansion, Ukuqeqeshwa Kobumsulwa
Ukumisa imithetho ecacile kusiza ukuvimbela ukungezwani futhi kuqinisekisa ukuthi zombili izinhlangothi zisekhasini elilodwa. Lesi sivumelwano kufanele sihlanganise ubude besikhathi sokuvala, okuhlukile kokususwa, nemibandela yokuvula. Amawebhusayithi afana i-Alpha yocansi, Indlu Yokuphika, kanye Khiya Iqhude nikeza izifanekiso zokuhlela lezi zinkontileka, ukulinganisa ukwethenjwa nokuziphendulela.
Ukuthola ikheji elifanela indlela yakho yokuphila kubalulekile—okusebenza ngesikhathi semisebenzi yansuku zonke kungase kuhluke kulokho okudingayo ejimini noma ngokugijima isikhathi eside. Linga ngezitayela ezahlukene ukuze uthole ukuthi yini efanelana kangcono. Amakheji angokwezifiso ahlinzeka ngokunethezeka okukhulu, ikakhulukazi uma kucatshangelwa izici ezifana nokufaneleka, ukuhlanzeka, nokusetshenziswa kwansuku zonke. Gwema amakheji ane-spiked ukuze agqoke isikhathi eside, ngoba angaholela ekulimaleni
Ukugcina inhlanzeko kubalulekile. Amakheji avulekile enza kube lula ukuwahlanza ngaphandle kokususwa, kodwa nalawo kufanele aphume ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze ahlanzwe ngokujulile. Amakheji avaliwe kufanele asuswe okungenani kabili ngesonto ukuze kuhlanzeke kahle. Eminye imibhangqwana ihlanganisa ukuhlanza ekuguquguqukeni kwayo, umnikazi wesihluthulelo eqondisa noma enze ukuhlanza ukugcina ukulawula.
Nakuba ukunxusa kobumsulwa kusekuyekeni ukulawula, izimo eziphuthumayo zingenzeka. Ukuba nokhiye oyisipele otholakalayo kubalulekile. Ezinye izindlela zokudala zokuphatha okhiye besimo esiphuthumayo zifaka:
• Ukuqandisa ukhiye emanzini ukuvimbela ukufinyelela okungagunyaziwe.
• Ukusebenzisa inhlanganisela yebhokisi lokukhiya elinekhodi umnikazi wokhiye olawulayo.
• Amabhokisi okhiye alawulwa uhlelo lokusebenza okufinyelela ukude uma umnikazi wokhiye ekwelinye idolobha.
• Izimvilophu ezivaliwe noma okhiye abaqoshiwe abamakwe isiginesha yomnikazi wokhiye ukuze kutholwe ukuphazamisa.
Ukugqoka kwekheji isikhathi eside kungaholela ekwehleni kwemisipha uma ukumiswa okuvamile kungafinyelelwa. Nakuba ubumsulwa ngokwabo bungeke bubangele ukuncipha, kubalulekile ukuvumela ukuqhanyelwa ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze kugcinwe impilo yobudoda. Abanye abanikazi bokhiye bahlanganisa ama-erections ezikhathini zokuhlanza ukuze bagcine izinto zidlala ngenkathi belungisa le nkinga.
Ukumiswa okuzenzakalelayo-njengokhuni lwasekuseni-akunakugwema futhi kungabangela ukungakhululeki emakhejini aqinile. Ukuze uvimbele ubuhlungu, cabanga ukugqoka ikheji elikhudlwana ebusuku noma usebenzise idizayini eguquguqukayo evumela ukukhula okuthile. Ngaphandle kwalokho, umnikazi wokhiye angase avumele ukulala ngaphandle kwekheji uma ukuvala okuqinile kungenzeki.
Kubantu abahamba njalo, izingidi zepulasitiki kanye namakheji angewona awensimbi alungele ukugwema ukucupha imitshina yensimbi yesikhumulo sezindiza. Izingidi zepulasitiki zivame ukufaka izinombolo ze-serial ezihlukile, ezivumela umnikazi wokhiye ukuthi aqinisekise ukuthi ikheji alikakhishwa. Uma usebenzisa ilokhi yensimbi, zilungiselele ukubambezeleka okungaba khona noma izimo ezibangela amahloni ezindaweni zokuhlola ukuphepha.
Nakuba ubumsulwa bungase bujabulise ngokombono, bungase bungenzeki njengoba bekuhleliwe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kubalulekile ukufaka indlela yokuqeda ilungiselelo uma kudingeka—kungaba ngenxa yokungakhululeki, ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo, noma ubuhlungu. Misa igama eliphephile noma ibinzana ukuze uhlukanise phakathi kokuncenga okudlalayo kanye nesicelo esibucayi sokukhululwa.
Ubumsulwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi buqhutshwa phakathi kobudlelwane besifazane, umdlalo oguquguqukayo oholwa abesifazane, noma ukudlala yedwa - ngedivayisi ekhiyiwe yohlelo lokusebenza TimePasscode , kufanele ekugcineni kujabulise kuwo wonke umuntu ohililekile. Abaphathi bokhiye bangabela imisebenzi, bahlanganyele ekugconeni, noma bahlole izindlela zobuciko zokugqugquzela ogqokile ngaphandle kokukhipha ikheji. Ukufaka imidlalo ejabulisayo nezinselele kungagcina ukuzizwisa kujabulisa futhi kukusha.
Ngokulandela lawa macebiso, uzohlonyiswa kangcono ukuzulazula ezinseleleni zobumsulwa besikhathi eside noma obuhlala njalo kuyilapho uqinisekisa ukuthi ukuzizwisa kuhlala kujabulisa, kuphephile, futhi kwanelisa kubo bobabili ozakwethu.